What a vivid, poignant story, I know so many women can relate. My heart goes out to you for the heartbreak of another miscarriage. I also felt like the donor egg option opened another door. When I was weighing similar odds, a girlfriend reminded me of all the children in my life who I adore who do not share genes with. It’s love that forms our bond. ❤️
Oh my gosh, that’s it! We need not share DNA to share love. (And frankly, I’m not sure that my DNA would do anyone any good!) Thank you for this beautiful perspective, Liz.
Liz you and Seth are never far from my mind and if my hope for you was enough you would be holding your child by now. I know the pain, the struggle, the unbearable belief that hope no longer exists and the roller coaster of seeing a glimpse and feeling that hope again and again. Love to you both!
Thank you Karen, and I am so sorry that you had to walk this path before me. I would love to talk to you sometime about your experience with adoption, if you are open to sharing. ❤️
Yes yes yes Liz! Beautiful!!! One of my girlfriends carried her female partners eggs and she always reminds me that the genetic material of babies lost remain in our bodies forever, and that the cells that support the embryos made with eggs that are not our own are sustained by blood, cells, life of the carrier mom. It's all intertwined! It's a beautiful symbiosis :)
That is not fair. I am so sorry you are going through this torture. When I listened to your words ”please, please, please.” it took me back to my own experience. I call my two pregnancies a miracle it is just not fair that’s some can gets pregnant naturally and some have to go through so much frustration and agony. I hope with all my heart that your spirit baby will find you soon. 💙
Thank you Gila, this means so much. Pregnancy is a miracle, and I made sure to appreciate it for the short time I could, even by the third and fourth time when I knew it may not last. How old are your babies now?
Adi is almost 26, and Ron just turned 24. The aching need to be a mother could be so beautiful when things go smoothly, but tear us apart so deeply. I find that in this situation the idea “if it meant to be it will “ to be is cruel. 💙
I hope you know it’s bullshit ( sorry for the language). You are 100% meant to be a mother! Motherhood is what we give our child when they enter this world. Please don’t take me wrong; it will be disrespectful to minimize your feelings. Pregnancy is a beautiful experience, but it’s only for nine months. The real “job” starts from the first cry. No matter how this child arrives in your arms.💙
You're writing is beautiful...and I'm believing for all your options (please, please, please!). I consider the possibility of egg donation to be one of our miracles.
Nov 13, 2023Liked by Liz Medford - lizexplores.com
This dance of hope is so incredibly true, I’m constantly trying to find the hope or then next hope to cling onto. I wrote a poem which is called Estoy Esperando (waiting/hoping in Spanish, albeit the poem is in English, the word in Spanish made more sense).
Nov 14, 2023Liked by Liz Medford - lizexplores.com
Isn’t it so isolating, in so many ways, I’m always grateful for connections too. Exactly that, I’m glad I’ve people who are with me so I don’t feel so alone but equally wish none of us had to be here!
What a vivid, poignant story, I know so many women can relate. My heart goes out to you for the heartbreak of another miscarriage. I also felt like the donor egg option opened another door. When I was weighing similar odds, a girlfriend reminded me of all the children in my life who I adore who do not share genes with. It’s love that forms our bond. ❤️
Oh my gosh, that’s it! We need not share DNA to share love. (And frankly, I’m not sure that my DNA would do anyone any good!) Thank you for this beautiful perspective, Liz.
Liz you and Seth are never far from my mind and if my hope for you was enough you would be holding your child by now. I know the pain, the struggle, the unbearable belief that hope no longer exists and the roller coaster of seeing a glimpse and feeling that hope again and again. Love to you both!
Thank you Karen, and I am so sorry that you had to walk this path before me. I would love to talk to you sometime about your experience with adoption, if you are open to sharing. ❤️
.A riveting account of your journey to become a mom and the consequent heartache and disappointment. You are so loved.
Yes yes yes Liz! Beautiful!!! One of my girlfriends carried her female partners eggs and she always reminds me that the genetic material of babies lost remain in our bodies forever, and that the cells that support the embryos made with eggs that are not our own are sustained by blood, cells, life of the carrier mom. It's all intertwined! It's a beautiful symbiosis :)
Oh this is so beautiful Brenna, thank you for sharing!
That is not fair. I am so sorry you are going through this torture. When I listened to your words ”please, please, please.” it took me back to my own experience. I call my two pregnancies a miracle it is just not fair that’s some can gets pregnant naturally and some have to go through so much frustration and agony. I hope with all my heart that your spirit baby will find you soon. 💙
Thank you Gila, this means so much. Pregnancy is a miracle, and I made sure to appreciate it for the short time I could, even by the third and fourth time when I knew it may not last. How old are your babies now?
Adi is almost 26, and Ron just turned 24. The aching need to be a mother could be so beautiful when things go smoothly, but tear us apart so deeply. I find that in this situation the idea “if it meant to be it will “ to be is cruel. 💙
You are a lucky mama! And yes, I struggle with the cruelty of the notion that it’s not meant to be, even as I’m often the one having those thoughts.
I hope you know it’s bullshit ( sorry for the language). You are 100% meant to be a mother! Motherhood is what we give our child when they enter this world. Please don’t take me wrong; it will be disrespectful to minimize your feelings. Pregnancy is a beautiful experience, but it’s only for nine months. The real “job” starts from the first cry. No matter how this child arrives in your arms.💙
Thank you for this beautiful perspective, Gila! You are so very right. ❤️
You're writing is beautiful...and I'm believing for all your options (please, please, please!). I consider the possibility of egg donation to be one of our miracles.
Thank you so much, Linda! It really is a miracle when you think about it. ♥️
This dance of hope is so incredibly true, I’m constantly trying to find the hope or then next hope to cling onto. I wrote a poem which is called Estoy Esperando (waiting/hoping in Spanish, albeit the poem is in English, the word in Spanish made more sense).
https://open.substack.com/pub/sheilaiswriting/p/estoy-esperando?r=2uqaml&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post
Sending hugs and hope your way z
Thank you for sharing your poem, Sheila! I’m sorry to hear you have walked this path too. I feel your words so deeply, always esperando… ♥️
I’m glad to connect with you through written words, it feels good to connect albeit over such a difficult topic. Always esperando indeed 💗
Infertility is so isolating, and I’m always grateful to find someone who understands, even though I wish neither one of us were in this situation.
Isn’t it so isolating, in so many ways, I’m always grateful for connections too. Exactly that, I’m glad I’ve people who are with me so I don’t feel so alone but equally wish none of us had to be here!